by Carmen Lett
Limiting and Negative Beliefs keep many women from reaching their potential and ideal life. This restricting underlying system of beliefs about themselves and the world around them influences their ability to aspire, pursue and achieve success in their specific area of vision and goals. Because Limiting and Negative beliefs are often subconsciously reactionary fears rooted to the basic human needs of love, safety and belonging and not obviously perceived, they must be uncovered, eradicated and renovated into a new positive and affirming system of beliefs that will empower them to rise above every challenge!
When a woman if finding it difficult to find confidence or motivation to move forward toward a goal, take leaps of faith or overcome obstacles and challenges in her effort for success, the Transformational Coaching process can initiate the process of change that will free her to discover her abilities and attain her desires and goals. The two-phase process of Revelation and Renovation through this Coaching Method called RISE is tool the Coach can use to lead the Client through the steps necessary for transformation.
Phase 1- REVELATION
This phase is all about discovery of the Limiting and Negative Beliefs that are the source of inability to move forward and attain success.
R – Recognize:
The Coach must first guide the Client to look beyond obvious or presumed obstacles and shift her focus to deeper underlying reactionary thoughts and motivations. Up to this point the Client most likely is unaware of her Limiting Beliefs and that is why she is coming to you for Coaching. Without recognition that underlying Limiting and Negative Beliefs is the culprit of her difficulties she will continue to remain in a pattern and cycle of defeat.
Illustration: Underlying Limiting/Negative Belief control thoughts. Thoughts control outward actions: language, response, inability to act or negative or restrictive action9+.
Simply encourage the Client become more introspective, paying attention to more than the obvious and become self-aware. She can do this by becoming aware of:
– Limiting Language used in daily conversation are indicators and give opportunity to look deeper into the underlying Belief. Using the “Limiting Language Discovery Tool” she can track and record Limiting Language which the she and the Coach can review in the Identify step.
– Listen to “Self-Talk”. Record Negative and Limiting thoughts or emotions that happen and what triggered them.
– Record Recoil. Taking time to think through and record past and present reactions of not taking action or quitting when faced with obstacles to be reviewed with the Coach.
I – Identify:
Once the Client has become self-aware and open to the new focus, the Coach can review the Client’ discoveries. Through powerful questions the Coach will ask about those discoveries, the Client will articulate the Limiting Belief. The Coach at this point will mirror back the Limiting Belief giving the Client opportunity to thoroughly identify it as a Limiting Belief. At this stage not only will she isolate and identify the belief but will have a new awareness of the basic human need from which it stems, which will be helpful in her Impending empowerment.
Phase 2 – RENOVATION
Using powerful questions that reveal unconscious blocks, patterns, excuses, reasons, habits or obstacles that stand in the way of the Client taking action to success.
S – Sort, Source & Siege:
Taking one Limiting and Negative Belief at a time, the Client will be encouraged to track the belief to a past event, circumstance, perception or emotion where the Limiting and Negative Belief began or has it’s rational grounds – those grounds indicating a basic human need that the Limiting and Negative Belief is attempting to protect. Attention is given to that motivation of basic human need and how the formed Limiting Belief is now being projected on present and future events, comparing its rationale. Using coaching tools, she can then consciously siege and cut off the influence the Limiting and Negative Belief has on her current attitude and reaction regarding goals, endeavors and circumstances. The goal of this step is to discredit the Limiting and Negative Belief and its power over the “now.”
The Coaching Tool, “10 Questions To Challenge Limiting Beliefs“, is helpful for this pinpointing a Limiting Belief, tracking it’s source and disengaging.
E – Empowerment:
This step now brings total transformation! Once the Limiting and Negative Beliefs are identified and discredited, the Client replaces the old belief with new empowering beliefs. The Coach will ask the Client to create one or two beliefs are affirming, positive and produce expectation of limitless possibilities before her and her ability to succeed. She brings into her view a perspective of opportunities, resources, support and inner resolve that she can meditate upon and fill her subconscious and conscious with daily until it is internalized as a new source of motivation, attitude and behavior. It is in this stage that she can also now look at possible obstacles and challenges and project an attitude of resilience and forging ahead instead of recoiling and quitting. New attitudes, motivations and reactions follow her newly formed positive belief system equating a transformation!
Recommended Research paper: “Getting Rid Of The Limiting Beliefs That Hold You Back So You Can Get To Your Ideal Life!”
Master Transformational Coach