How Can I Be A Life Coach, Even If My Life Isn’t Perfect?
No One’s Life Is Perfect….
However, you should be content and be at your best when coaching others and you should be at your best before the coaching session
Here are 5 steps to be your best self
Step 1 – Forgiving yourself is the 1st step to being your best self.
Forgive yourself for anything and everything you think you caused that was bad in your or someone else’s life. You can’t go back for a do-over, so learn the lesson and move forward, promising to better handle any similar situation that may arise.
Forgiving yourself does not mean forgetting or condoning what happened, or giving up the values that were violated or assuming you are at fault. Forgiveness can be viewed as foregoing the resentment and giving the gifts of mercy, generosity and love to yourself even if you feel you do not deserve it. To release the shackles of the past, we must be willing to forgive.
Forgiveness is about creating a state “for giving” both to self and others and excusing a mistake or an offense and letting go of the associated hurt, anger or resentment. Because forgiveness has the greatest benefit to the person doing the forgiving, it is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to yourself.
Forgiving allows us to get on with our lives and to open up our minds and hearts to new ways of seeing others, the world and ourselves. It releases energy that can be used for other, more productive thoughts and actions.
1-Let go of the past by…
2-Giving up the hope that past could be different and..
3-Accept that it has happened and move forward
4-Determine how you made the error or if it was even an error on your part at all. If it was ask yourself, “What might I do differently next time?”
5- Then move forward and invite yourself to begin again.
If it’s another person you need to forgive, see the person in the light of love, rather than the action that happened
Step 2 – Accept Yourself
How many people can actually say that they love and accept themselves just as they are?
Learning to love yourself is quite possibly one of the hardest things to accomplish in your life. And that is when there is nothing wrong with you.
Accepting yourself means accepting your body, accepting your income, accepting your level of success. This does not mean you have to remain this way. However, you should accept it as it is and gradually set goals to change it.
The most important part of acceptance is taking full responsibility of your life.
Here is an article from Carlos Cody a coach and student of UCI.
Step 3- Get to know yourself is the 3rd step to being your best self.
Who Are You?
There are numerous ways to lose your own sense of self. There are things you can do to help preserve that, no matter what happens. This sense of self is essential in any self-improvement program.
Know your purpose
Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own exclusive compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.
Know your values
What do you value most? Is it love, family, freedom? Knowing exactly what is important to you will reassure you in times of doubt.
Know your needs
Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be correct, to be in control, to be loved? There are so many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed.
Know your passions
What gets your blood flowing? What makes you angry? Determined? Knowing what fuels your emotions will help you know what you need to do.
Know your inner being
Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. Don’t shun silence and alone time. Relish it. It is during these moments that your true self makes an appearance.
Know your strengths
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know to others.
When you are true to yourself, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your spirit – your essence.
They say “To thine own self be true.” This is one of the truest statements ever made. Know yourself and be the you you were born to be.
Step 4 – Eliminate Toxic People From Your Life
Eliminating toxic people from your life is the 4th step to being your best self.
It is difficult to be your best self when you are around toxic people who drain your energy. Because so many people in the world prey on those that work toward a better way of life, we are all in danger of being torn down by others on a daily basis. Still, we have the power to change this pattern by staying away from these toxic people that hold us back from our progress.
Thus, we want to build positive relationships with others. Particularly, one must cultivate positive friends and mates that will support you through the process of self-development and being your best self.
The first thing is to identify a toxic person. Here are 15 ways to spot a toxic person http://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/about-you/15-ways-to-spot-a-toxic-person/#.VcOn3PlViko and also http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/02/28/whats-a-toxic-person-how-do-you-deal-with-one/
There are some toxic relationships that we cannot avoid. You should always express your feelings to the person and see if there is something the both of you can do about the communication. Discuss it with them and decide on action steps that will help you both get to where you want to be with the relationship.
Use these questions to see if you can deal with the person and how find ways to deal with the person:
1) What do you admire about this friend?
2) What do you dislike about them?
3) How do they present themselves to others? Remember, this can reflect on you!
4) Is there something important that really annoys you about them?
5) Do they have traits you’d like to have someday? What are they?
6) Who is benefiting from this relationship? How? Friendship is a 2-way street. You
both should benefit from it.
7) What are some ideas for actions steps you and your friend can take to strengthen
Step 5 – Take Care Of Your Health
Exercise, eat right, meditate, lol